Why you NEED a positivity playlist – VickiAmaya

To put it simply, because it makes you feel fucking good!

I’m currently sat on my bed, developing a tan, listening to one of my five absolute classics for my own positivity playlist songs. It’s so good that I’m having a little boogie, flipping my ponytail around, throwing my hands in the air, you get the gist…

If you don’t have five go to songs that can pull you straight out of a down day, then you can steal mine from below but I urge you to seriously personalise your positivity playlist.

I started my own (mental) playlist back in 2012 when I had my bad patch (read about that here). There was one song that would always pull me out of a deep, dark depressive day. I related to each verse and the chorus just nailed the resolution. I am of course talking about Shake It Out – Florence and the Machine. It’s one of those songs that just penetrates the soul and really gives you the pep talk you knew you needed!

Since then, I have slowly amassed a small anthology of songs that will perk me right up in four minutes or less (estimation). However, of all the songs there are five that really build me up and lift those dark clouds.

– The Playlist –

  • Shake It Out – Florence and the Machine
  • Darlin’ – Avril Lavigne
  • Fuck You – Sleeping With Sirens
  • My Heart Will Go On – Scott Bradlee’s Postmodern Jukebox
  • Looking Up – Paramore

I mean, I do also sing these songs at the top of my little lungs so that probably helps. Each one has that perfect message for pulling you away from the downward spiral that you can get trapped in.

So, why not create your own positivity playlist and please feel free to throw it my way, I would love to add to the above with your suggestions!

Until next time lovelies,

VickiAmaya

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How to save money (But still have new clothes) – VickiAmaya

How the hell can you spend money but still save money?! Well my little poppet, let me share my own methods with you. This is how I save money but still have new clothes!

Make your Wishlist your ‘Thinking It Over’ list.

Impulse buys are the work of Satan himself. Have you ever purchased something because it looked so good at the time (usually 2am) but then when it turns up you just don’t know how to style it? Then, you forget to return it so you’re just stuck with it because you’re lazy? Me too, that’s why I use the wish list function on every website as a holding pen for all of my impulses.

Shop Second Hand

Depop has become my best friend for BNWT items. Every pair of shoes with exception to my Platform Vans have come from Depop and they have been almost half the price tag! If you’ve had your eye on something for a little while then give it a search. Ebay, Depop, Charity Shops and Bloggers Instagram Accounts are great places to find your must haves. Bloggers often get sent products that they just don’t have room. Keep an eye on their stories or selling accounts if you’ve seen something you love.

Shop Sale/Outlets

I mean, this one speaks for itself but if you’re shopping in between seasons then you’re bound to find some of the items from your Wish List in the sale. If you’ve ever worked in retail you will know that sales happen every three/four months. This is so that the old stock can be sold off and the new stock can be brought in.
You will also find a whole heap of bargains in outlet shopping centres, they hold the same designer goods but at a much lower rate. You can also search for online outlet stores such as www.theoutnet.com

Discount Codes and Newsletter Sign Ups

Another fairly obvious point but I have saved SO MUCH MONEY with this trick. Sites like ASOS and Nasty Gal are constantly throwing out discount codes. If you pair these with your Wish List items, you’re guaranteed to save some money on those must have pieces!
Plus, most sites will give you a 10% discount code for signing up to their newsletter.

Honey – Free To Join (NOT SPONSORED)

This one, I only know about because of Shane Dawson. It’s a free website extension that will add discount codes to your checkout. I’m always dubious about products that influencers endorse but this one is actually really good. I used it on a recent ASOS order and saved £35.00! The link below is affiliated which means if you use it to sign up, I will earn a small amount of commission but this in no way affects your purchases and I don’t have access to any of your details.

http://joinhoney.com/ref/xl10l8k

I hope this helps you stay fashionable and out of debt my lovelies.
XO

VickiAmaya Saving Money Fashion Blogger

Lets talk about anxiety

Alright so, Anxiety is something that plagued my life for years. I’ve had anxious thoughts and feelings from as long as I can remember. Even as a child, I used to get this feeling that something bad was going to happen.

I remember always feeling this snap decision in my head. Something in there was saying ‘No’. But, as hard as I tried to fight against it, it would always win. I couldn’t do something because of this ‘No”…

In my teens, I missed a lot of schooling and GSCE coursework. I was constantly at war with my mum, trying to get her to understand but also trying to figure it out myself. Why did I have some horrible voice that wouldn’t let me do the things everyone else could do?

What was wrong with me?

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Christmas 2018 – VickiAmaya

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The Christmas I stayed at home and ate copious amount of cheese…

I’ve been living with my partner and his parents for the past three years. For anyone that doesn’t know… We moved from our little studio apartment in Malvern to be closer to London. Which basically meant bunking with the parents to save for a little space of our own.

And every year without fail, I haul myself, my boyfriend and a bag of gifts up to the Midlands to see my friends and family. This usually involves a three hour drive up, lots of take out food and a long drive back all within around 24 hours. Then, I usually get ill and spend around a week trying to catch up on sleep etc.

This year, I decided to spend the entirety of December at home, resting up and doing some well needed life admin.

My god, team – It’s been incredible! I’ve been able to sort out all of my little nagging tasks, tidy my room, keep on top of washing, discover a new ‘Lighter’ make up style, re-invigorate my fashion sense and fit in a work Christmas party!

I’ve even filmed a few videos and actually sent clothes back in time for a full bloody refund!!

Granted, I did spend Christmas day in bed with a migraine. Boxing day, though… Boxing day was a day spent with family, food and cheese (because it’s a food group all of it’s own).

So, what have I learnt?

Take time. Take time for rest and recovery. I am not a machine. I cannot run on empty and sometimes a little sacrifice is worth its weight in gold.

December 2018 Life Update – VickiAmaya

So, Hi. I’m back. It’s November (now December) and I haven’t written anything on here for around 4/5 months. I would apologise, but if i’m honest. I’m not really sorry.

A lot has changed for me this past year. I started the year exhausted and I leave it enthused.

So, 2018 was supposed to be the year I ‘Made It’. The year we got the hell out of dodge and saw the world. I held it with such a high regard and then let it all slip away.

The funny thing about dreams is that if you stop believing in them, they stop happening.

But instead of dwelling on the could have, would have and shouldabeens (I’m saving those for a rainy day). I’m instead going to write about what did happen this year. I feel like that’s a way better story than wishing I could start the year again.

Life Update:

I made new friends! I’ve written about this previously, but I feel its worth mentioning again. Jess, Kitty and Emily, you girls are my angels and  love you all so much. I can’t believe I went 28 years without having a bunch of inspiring, creative and caring girls behind me. You gave me a group of friends at a time when I had so few.

Moving away from home is always tough. Out of sight, out of mind… But I can’t complain because by loosing some old friends, I have made some life long ones. I didn’t realise how alone and isolated I had become until I started hanging out with this girl gang. Seriously, thank you babes!

I lost 5000+ Instagram followers and found my clarity. I was OBSESSED with the inner workings, the numbers, the upload schedule, the updates. You get the point. I had been consumed by the app and felt like it ruled my life. That was until I broke a light bulb and couldn’t upload anything new. I then took a spontaneous few months off. Honestly, if you’re trying to carve a living from your own little corner of the internet, then I applaud ALL of your efforts. This shit is hard af.

Since starting to post again, I have only lost followers and you know what… It sucks, it really does. But, I still have an amazing, caring following and I still want to help people so I’m just rolling with the punches. You’ve got to take the lows with the highs. You can’t just throw in the towel when the going gets tough can you. I’ve done that my ENTIRE life and it’s finally time to face the music. I know it will get better, I will get better and I can still make a career out of this. It just takes time.

My darling Adam and I made it to four blissful years together. God, I love him. He pulled me out of the depths of a deep, dark depression and showed me what love is supposed to feel like. I often ask him if he can find me again in the next life because I honestly cannot bare to be without him anymore. Did you know that, I was convinced that I would never meet my ‘true love’? I treated relationships like fashion trends. Fleeting between boys and not really putting any heart into them. That was until Adam came along. If you’re in love then you’ll know how this feels.

I never, ever knew I could feel so whole.

I went back to full time employment. Not a decision I took lightly, I’ll have you know. Within two months of being there I have also been offered one of three promotions. On thing I have always beaten myself up for is my inability to take pressure in a job and work my way up in a role. I have always cracked under the pressure of a full time job. I was convinced the other staff members hated me. Or, my home life was in shreds so I couldn’t handle keeping up appearances of having my shit together.

This time around, I did it right, I worked my ass off and it’s so nice to see the pay off.

I went a whole year without a mental breakdown. It sounds silly but it’s true. Every year prior to this one, I have had to have time off work because I’ve been unable to function. It has felt like a huge achievement to not take time off for stress or anxiety.

Am I a little sad that I’m not a millionaire business woman with all my dreams coming true? Of course I am but I’m also happy. I survived another year and I achieved some amazing things.

Everyone is on their own journey in life. We all peak at different things, in different ways and at different times. So, please don’t feel like you’re playing catch up with everyone else.

Lets see what the next year has in store, shall we?!